Safer Sex Can Be Good Sex

There’s more to good, safer sex than putting on a condom. Consider these tips for before, during, and after sex.

Before...

Talk openly with your partner about the decision to have sex. Discuss how, where, and when to have sex, if you agree to.
Stock up on safer sex supplies. Semen, vaginal fluids, and blood can contain infectious organisms. Condoms and sex dams provide barriers that reduce skin-to-skin contact and exposure to fluids.
Listen to any concerns your partner might have and talk about why condom use is important.
For women who use condoms or another barrier method for birth control, get EC or emergency contraception (two pills taken within 72 hours after unprotected sex to prevent pregnancy) ahead of time in case the condom or barrier fails. University Health Services (UHS) and most pharmacies sell EC without a prescription.
Avoid regrets. Sex under the influence of alcohol or other drugs can be unplanned, risky, and even dangerous.

Discover what is sexually pleasing to you and your partner by sharing your desires. Don’t depend on body language—talk.
Know your limits, and make sure your partner knows them, too. Agree ahead of time on what sexual activities are comfortable and pleasurable for both of you. Never be afraid to say no at any time!
Have fun! Not only is safer sex good, it can feel great when using a condom. Knowing how to use condoms correctly can make you feel more at ease and knowledgeable about sex. Experimenting with condoms can be fun and add new excitement to sex.
For tips and suggestions about different brands and types of lubes and condoms, contact Sex Out Loud at sexoutloud@gmail.com

Talk with your partner about your sexual experience. Let them know how you feel and listen to what they have to say.
If your partner has HIV, or is at high risk for HIV (e.g., a man who has had sex with another man, an injection drug user, or a sex worker) and the condom broke, slipped off, or wasn’t used at all, seek medical attention right away to lower the risk of infection. Call UHS at 265-5600 for a same-day appointment or seek care at a local emergency department. Obtain over-the-counter EC if pregnancy is a concern.
UHS also offers screening for other STIs like chlamydia or gonorrhea.
Feel good about yourself and your decisions—no regrets.